Scales weighing emotions

How you express them and manage them is key

In my last post, I discussed attitudes toward positive thinking and received a lot of questions about positivity in relation to emotions.

People often view having a positive mindset as essential for living a happy and fulfilling life. But sometimes the pressure to maintain constant positivity can be unrealistic and at worst be overwhelming. Suppressing emotions can lead to increased stress and anxiety, as well as physical symptoms, such as headaches and digestive issues.

For example, when someone is experiencing the loss of a loved one, they need time and space to process their emotions. It is also important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Everyone experiences grief differently, and there is no timeline or set of expectations for how one “should” feel or behave.

Rather than striving to maintain a constant positive mindset, it’s helpful to focus on self-compassion and self-care. This may include taking time to rest, engage in activities that bring joy, as well as seeking support from others.

One way to balance the benefits of a positive mindset with the need to process emotions is to practise meditation or mindfulness. Mindfulness involves being present in the moment and non-judgementally observing your thoughts and emotions. Rather than striving to maintain a constant positive mindset, meditation encourages a more balanced and accepting approach to your emotional experience.

Paradoxically, by acknowledging and accepting all aspects of your emotional experience, you can develop greater resilience and coping skills.

Any loss, such as a relationship, employment, or a child leaving home, can be difficult and may evoke emotions, such as sadness, grief, or even anger. Rather than suppressing the emotions, you might seek support from others who can offer validation and empathy. This can include talking with friends and family members, as well as seeking professional support from a therapist or coach, especially if you feel stuck. By sharing your emotions with others and receiving validation and empathy, you are more likely to feel understood and less alone. 

When your emotions have been expressed in a safe environment, you can move forward with a well considered rational plan rather than acting from a purely emotional state. Both the calm, logical part and the emotional part of your mind will feel acknowledged. – Emotional intelligence in action.

Ignoring or suppressing emotions can be harmful. Denying them can feel invalidating to those who are experiencing genuine pain and suffering. By practicing disciplines intent on calming the mind, such as meditation, mindfulness, and yoga. By seeking support from others, and focusing on self-compassion and self-care, one can develop a more balanced and resilient approach to coping with any kind of setback.

You are then free to seek the life you deserve.